Okay, so since I’m pretty much of a lazy ass, I will direct you to The First Six and hereby commence this list with Number Seven.

7.  Hmmmm…writer’s block already.  Does. Not. Bode. Well.

8.  I was a chubby kid.  My Mom always said it was baby fat and that I would outgrow it, and yet she put me on every diet known to man.  I could make up this entire post of 100 things just by listing every diet I’ve ever been on.

9.  One of my favorite words is ‘half-ass’ – I love this word and use it every chance I get, even as a verb.  As in, "BeBop, why the FRICK are you half-assing the dishes, JUST SCRUB THEM ALREADY!!"

10.  BeBop hates the word ‘half-ass.’ See above.

11.  My first boyfriend wrote out all the words to the Peter Cetera song You’re The Inspiration and I thought it was the most romantic gesture EVER.

12.  He turned out to be a cross-dresser. This was not my fault.

13.  Years after we broke up, we had lunch and he shared this news with me.  We briefly talked of becoming roommates, and then I realized if we shared a closet we would be sharing a closet and suddenly this did not seem like such a good idea.

14.  Growing up, I always thought I would be a lawyer and then go into politics.  Even from a young age, I volunteered on campaigns and was on the debate team in high school.

15.  After college I worked for a CRAZY attorney who smoked pot before going to court.  I soured on law as a career path and instead of going to law school I moved to Los Angeles.

16.  As I mentioned, I was a Congressional Page when I was about 15.  I was never hit on by any Congressmen.  I think because I had one thing going for me.  It’s called a VAGINA.

17.  During college I worked in Washington, DC for a summer and then after grad school moved there for a few years.   I loved that city.  But I grew disillusioned with politics and am still figuring out what I want to be when I grow up.

18.  I’m thinking these should be shorter or you’re going to be here all damn day.

19.  I spent a summer in a small West African village when I was in college.  No running water, no electricity.  It was awesome and horrible, all at the same time.

20.  I caught malaria and thought I was going to die. 

21.  I kept thinking my Mother was going to KILL me if I went to Africa and ended up dying of malaria.

22.  Exactly a year later I was backpacking through Europe and had a mysterious illness which consisted of really, really high fevers and once again,  was pretty sure I was going to die.

23.  When I saw BeBop for the first time, a shiver ran down my spine and I thought:  there he is.

24.  We started off as friends, hanging out doing ‘date-like things’ that would include dinner, a movie and often drinks.

25.  But he never tried to kiss me, so I assumed I was permanently stuck in the Dreaded Friend Zone.

26.  Then  I had a dream in which he was choosing two copies of each book from the basement of the publishing company he was working for at the time.

27.  When I woke up, I was sure he was seeing someone else. 

28.  About two weeks later, he explained that we were in the Friend Zone because he was ending a relationship with someone and didn’t want to complicate matters.

29.  This was actually fine with me because I was also casually seeing someone, a guy who had just graduated from college.  I was almost 30, he was 22 and hot. SCORE!

30. But when I refused to sleep with him he dumped me on my ass.  BASTARD.

31. But I kept his favorite baseball cap and as you know, there is nothing more precious to a frat boy than his beloved, well-worn college baseball hat.

32.  So you can SUCK IT college boy.

33.  Not that I’m bitter or anything.

34.  BeBop and I started dating shortly after that.

35.  When we started talking about adopting a dog, he suggested the name Peas. I almost left him over that.

36.  I am terrified of heights. 

37.  And roller coasters.  Once when we went to Vegas I went on the New York, New York roller coaster and kept my eyes clenched shut the entire time. I was SURE I was going to pass out cold and fall out of the safety bars.

38.  Needless to say, I do not, in fact, feel the need for speed.

39.  I hate it when people try to cut in line.  I get very angry when this happens.  And I mean steam-coming-out-of-my-ears-practically-catatonic-with-rage angry.

40.  It is not a pretty sight.

41.  All through college, I had a recurring fear that I would one day be taken hostage in a bank.

42. For years, each time I went into a bank I tried to locate a hiding place that I was sure would one day come in handy when the bank was suddenly taken over by masked men.

43.  I feared one of those Richard Nixon masks the most.

44.  I seriously had this fear for four years.

45. Soon after I graduated, some friends invited me to a local bar for drinks.  Since it was a weeknight and I actually had a real life job (with the screaming lawyer) I declined at the last minute.

46.  That night, the bar where they went was taken over by a heavily armed crazy person.  Several people were shot trying to escape.  One of these people was a woman from my sorority, who was shot ten times but lived.

47.  The man kept these students hostage for the entire night.  One student died, after bleeding to death behind the bar.

48.  He did things to them.  But no one really knows what, because none of the people wanted to talk openly about it once it was finally over.

49.  It’s a little like the plot of that new TV show, The Nine.

50.  It was a horribly traumatic thing (to put it mildly) and terrifying for those of us who knew these people.  None of us knew how to help them.

51.  After this tragedy, I never had that premonition again.

52.  Suddenly half-way through this list, it has taken a macabre turn.

53.  Maybe you should take a quick break and grab yourself a Diet Coke?  It’s okay, I’ll wait…

54.  Much better!

55.  I love dogs and like cats, but I’m definitely a dog person.  I’m not sure if I’ll ever have cats of my own. BeBop is not a big fan. 

56. My sister used to have a little bird she called Josh.  He hated my guts and would scream (squawk?) bloody murder whenever I entered the room.

57. My sister would do her homework sitting on her bed with Josh perched at the end of her pencil.

58.  Being the nerdy bookworm I was, I thought this was ridiculous and told her so.  She was the cool kid and hated me giving her advice.  She and Josh would gang up on me and I would leave the room dejected, having had my proverbial ass kicked by my little sister and a little green bird.  Pathetic.

59.  On September 12, 2001, when BeBop and I started talking about canceling our wedding, I had my first (and hopefully last) panic attack.

60.  That was, and still is, one of the saddest moments of my life.

61.  Good grief Charlie Brown! Why is this list so depressing??

62.  My Mom has a photo of an Indian Guru in our house.  He’s wearing an orange robe and has a huge, bushy afro.

62.  This afro is like the exaggerated hairstyles seen in movies from the 70s.  It’s just a huge halo of hair. I cannot overemphasize the hugeness that is this afro.

63.  When one of my college roommates came home with me, she asked if that was my Dad.

64.  My Mom and I started laughing so hard we couldn’t speak and were doubled-over, trying to catch our breath, for like five minutes.  My roommate just stood there, unsure as to what was so humorous.

65.  This would be funny if you knew my Dad.  An uptight, prep-schooled New Englander.  With short hair and madras pants and golf clubs always within arm’s reach.  Who sings in the church choir. So to confuse him with an Indian Guru  in an orange monk’s robe with this huge afro is just, well…I guess you had to be there.

66.  I love food.  Like, LOOOOVE it. 

67.  Speaking of food, I just ate lunch and had a bowl of yogurt with bananas and flax seeds.  When I was about two bites from finishing, I bit into something hard that was not a flaxseed. It was a tiny bit of glass.  Then I found two more in my mouth.  I was eating glass people!  [That  sentence should read:  I was eating glass, people! otherwise it looks as if I was eating GLASS PEOPLE, which, unless I was really hungry, would not make any sense!]

68.  Speaking of eating glass, I really did meet an amateur magician a few years ago at a colon cleansing health retreat (mentioned in the First Six).  In his act at the end of our stay, he ate a light bulb!

69.  We’d been on a strict diet of juices, wheat grass and sprouted sprouty things all week, so I can’t imagine how this light bulb affected his digestive system.

70. He was (and still is, I presume) the father of the actress Michelle Williams.  It was during the time she was on Dawson’s Creek and I was waaaay too old to be watching that show, but I was.  And I admitted it when he told me who his daughter was.

71.  And I jokingly offered to run away with him and be his apprentice.  And I was only half-joking.

72.  My sister and I have a habit of cracking each other up at the most inappropriate times.  Think church, funerals, formal dinners, that kind of thing.

73.  My goal is always to make her spit out her drink through her nose, which she does often.  Sometimes when we start laughing we cannot stop.

74. Once when she was little, she drew a crude rendering of a pig on the church program, put an arrow pointing to the pig and then my to name.  As if the pig was named Watson, or that I was the pig.  Is this clear? I cannot tell.

75.  Anyway, we started laughing and snorting so loud we had to leave the pew and run outside.  My parents were not pleased.

76.  I always hated church but still go on Easter and Christmas to please my parents.  Really my Dad, because my Mom prefers to sing Indian hymns at a local ashram.

77. Once when I was in junior high my Mom brought me to an ashram in Oakland.  An Indian guru was there (not the one in the aforementioned photo) and he was blessing people.  You had to wait in a long line and then bow down before him.

78. Usually, he would make some sort of a blessing gesture above your head and murmur something in Hindi.  When my Mom got her turn, he started batting her over the head with a large peacock feather. But the kind of feather with the…spine thingey??…in it, so that it was more like a small stick.

79. And he kept slapping her on the head with this feather, making a loud "THWACK" sound each time.

80.  She thinks he was opening her chakra.  I think he was punishing her for being mean to me when I was little.  (See previous post re: being locked in room in order to bend spoon with so-called psychic powers.)

81.  I get terribly carsick AND seasick.  Sometimes I’m not that much fun to travel with.  Unless you like vomit, because THEN I’m your best fuckin’ friend!

82. I love words.  I love reading them and writing them, and speaking them and learning about them and making them up.  I heart words.  Strangely, this never occurred to me until one day shortly after we met, BeBop said, "GAWD, you, like, totally love words."  And I thought, "Holy freaking hell, I DO!"

83.  Are you sure this list is supposed to be all about me?  It feels self-indulgent and narcissistic.  And by  "self-indulgent and narcissistic" I mean SUPER FUN.

84.  If you are still reading by this point, I will send you $5.

85.  NOT.

86.  When BeBop and I took a break from trying to get pregnant, I went through a certification program to become a life coach.  Even though it’s not my full time job now, I love it.

87. Sometimes I wonder if one day I’ll become a life coach working with women dealing with infertility issues. I like to look for meaning in the bad things that happen to me, but know that sometimes shit just happens, man.

88. My sister and I have seen the movie Tommy Boy about 100 times.  There is one scene in particular, in a restaurant, that makes us laugh so hard we practically pee ourselves, even though we’ve seen it a million times.

89.  Many people think my sister and I are very weird.

90.  My sister eloped after knowing her now-husband for only two months.  She didn’t tell anyone for almost three months.  He is Mormon. She is not.  We thought they were crazy.  They celebrated their  7th anniversary this past summer. Shows you how much we know.

91. Every January, BeBop and I make what we call our Treasure Maps. They’re collages of pictures and quotes and phrases that we put on our mirrors to look at each day  They represent our dreams, wishes and goals for the coming year.  We’ve had baby pictures on these treasure maps forEVER.

92. Phew.  Home stretch now, baby!

93.  My friends and I like making up nicknames for each other and every other person in our lives.  The girl your boyfriend cheated on you with is called Martini, the pale guy in our condo complex is called Powder, my ex-boyfriend is called Mr. Cruel.  It gives us endless hours of fun to come up with these names.

94.  When my Mom took my sister and I to India two years ago, we were traveling in a taxi to an ashram.  At the same time the driver offered my Mom a mint, she saw a small dog on the side of the road.  When she asked, "what is that?" he thought she was referring to the mint.  So he said, "A mintamintamint" because he was frustrated she didn’t understand his English.  She thought he was pointing to the dog and calling it a "minka."  She kept saying, "A minka??  What kind of animal is THAT?  I’ve never heard of that!"  And my sister and I laughed so hard I thought both of our heads would explode, right there in the taxi.

95.  For the rest of the trip we’d see a dog and shout, "Look, Mom!  A MINKA!!" and laugh and laugh. She would tell us to shut up.

96.  At one point, we were attacked by wild monkeys because they saw we were carrying fruit from the market.  One stood on its hind legs and grabbed my Mom’s skirt WITH HIS TINY LITTLE MONKEY HANDS.  We shrieked in terror and my Mom tried to hit it with the bag.  I threw a banana in the other direction in the hope it would get distracted and run for the banana.  It did.  We still ran away like screaming little girls.  Good times.

97.  I still don’t know what to do with the rest of my life. I look at the following quote each day, and hope it’s true:  "Whatever you are meant to do, move toward it and it will come to you."

98. I really, REALLY want to get pregnant without having to do IVF.  Sometimes I think this is possible, other times I think I’m a raving lunatic.

99.  The raving lunatic part will come as no surprise to you if you’ve read Numbers 1-98. 

100. At the end of a long night of partying, my sister and I would say, "We’re soooooo end of party," meaning it was clearly time to go. 

I think I can safely say: 

END OF PARTY.

I have not told you something.

Because it’s too weird.

I know what you’re thinking: Ummmm, Watson?  You are like the WEIRDEST person I’ve ever seen, even weirder than most of the characters in those crazy ‘Lord of the Rings’ movies my husband dragged me to, so what in fricking HELL could be too weird for YOU?!?

And I agree, I have a very…let’s say flexible…definition of what constitutes weird.

You’ve read my posts about seeing psychics and healers and drinking strange unidentifiable herbs fermented in alcohol. And placing drawings of upside-down-martini-glass-like things near the bed.  And the Patron Saint of Infertility.

And how my Mother tapes crystal beads to her body to heal her, and how she hooks me up to polygraph-like machines to heal me.

And while all that might sound strange, I haven’t even told you about the time she locked me in my room when I was about ten because she was convinced I could bend a spoon with my MIND.

Yes.  You read that correctly.

SPOON. BEND. WITH MAGIC POWERS.

So anyway, I approach the whole idea of weird with a somewhat different perspective.

But this, this thing I haven’t revealed, is odd even for me. 

And here it is…

My acupuncturist thinks I might have been pregnant this last cycle.  For about 3 minutes.  Well, I’m not sure about the 3 minutes part, but isn’t that weird?!?

Here’s what happened.

My period was really late.  Like 4 days late.  Which for me is an eternity.

I used to have a luteal phase of ten days, spot on (pardon the bad pun).  After doing acupuncture and drinking the dreadful heinous herbs, it lengthened (grew? elongated? expanded??) to about 13-14 days and has been like this for the last four months.

At the end of October, I started to spot and then it just stopped. Normally, with the progesterone, I spot for 2-3 days and then my period starts.  This time, a bit of spotting and then it stopped.

My boobs were sore.  They tend to be sore for 4-5 days and then poof!  back to normal the day before my period.  This time, they got sorer and sorer until I was flinging them around the house and mewing like a sick cow. 

And my temperature stayed up for all of these days, which each morning was a total shock.

And…I took a HPT on a Friday.  It seemed negative and since I’m so used to seeing only the blinding white of a results window, I didn’t think twice.  Until I looked again a few minutes later and there was a faint, a verrryyy faint line making a + sign.

It’s an evap line, I thought, and sort of dismissed it.  But of course I took another test about a day later and it was clearly negative, so I chalked the second line up to my imagination, my poor eyesight, general wishful thinking, or perhaps the crank I snorted earlier that day (Kidding!).

My period still did not come, my temperature stayed up and my boobs stayed sore.  And this lasted for another couple of days, which is really, really out of the ordinary.

So when I showed my chart to my acupuncturist, she said she thought that perhaps, just maybe, I might have had an early pregnancy.  That the first test picked up a low level of HCG that went down as the pregnancy didn’t take, which is why subsequent tests came up negative.

Then, my period came and I dismissed the whole thing.  But still.  It’s been nagging at the corners of my mind. 

What if?

What if I was pregnant (or a little pregnant) for a day or two?

What if I can do it again?

I know what you’re thinking:  That IS weird, Watson.  You’ve done lost what was left of your feeble mind!

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On a totally unrelated matter, the lovely Lyrehca tagged me for the five things meme.  And then I remembered that I’d done the six things list a few months ago, over here.  So, I am going to use this as an excuse to do my 100 things, which The Oneliner did recently.  It inspired me! 

Except that hers was insightful and funny, and so far my list is like:

7.  Can I start at seven because I already did six?  Can I?  Thanks.

8.  Hmmmmm…100 seems like a FRICK load from here.

9.  I

10.  Like

11.  Peanut Butter!

12.  And I hate hobos, but that’s well-documented so maybe I shouldn’t include it in this list?

Well, you get the point. 

I will try to work on the rest of the list before I leave to go out of town next week.  BeBop and I are celebrating our 5th anniversary, and LORD KNOWS the fact that we actually made it through the last five years is something to celebrate!

I am hereby coining a new term:  K-Fed up.

It means BEYOND fed up.  Like, totally DONE.

Much like my little Venti-Double-Mocha-Chip-With-Extra-Whip-Frappucino-toting Britney, I am K-Fed up with all of this fertility testing.

I have been a fairly good sport until now.  I have gone in for blood test after blood test (even that disgusting four hour glucose test but thank GOD I was reading The Da Vinci Code at the time), gamely signed up for an HSG a couple of years ago, and had many ultrasounds with many different doctors.

(Speaking of which, I’m still convinced SOMEONE should be buying me dinner and a movie each time I submit to one of those!  Or least have an open box of wine in the waiting room to get me in the mood! They include condoms and lube and where the fuck is my Chardonnay?  DOES NOT COMPUTE.)

But I digress.

Today was my first in-person appointment with Dr. Z (I am calling him that because I am totally incapable of thinking of anything even remotely clever, his name starts with a ‘Z,’ and he reminds me of that character, Dr. Z, featured in the VW ads.  I know.  Pathetic).

Anyhoo, I went for the ever-delightful CD3 ultrasound so he could get his own look at the alleged cysts.  The actual procedure went well enough. He saw a few, small cysts, which he said indicated a fairly moderate case of PCOS, nothing to really worry about. He said that it looked like I would respond well to the stims if we move forward with IVF in a couple of months.

Then, he suggested they do a blood draw, which I wasn’t planning on doing today.  I knew I had a whole slew of new blood tests to do, he mentioned them to us when we had our phone consult a few weeks ago. So many, in fact, they recommend you do them over several visits.

One particular battery of tests is immunological and go to a special lab in Chicago.  If I go to my regular lab, I am responsible for shipping the vials to the facility myself.  Now I don’t know about you, but the thought of waltzing into my local Pack It! Store with several bottles of my own blood and having to figure out how to overnight them in the right packaging materials without causing a bio hazard emergency just does not appeal to me.

So I agreed to have these tests done today.  There were 5-6 tubes that needed to be filled, usually I get one or two depending on the tests. 

I had not quite done the math, as they say, to figure out that this was not such a great idea:

1.  It was CD3, as in, I am ALREADY bleeding thank you very much, don’t have any to spare!!

2.  I had eaten breakfast, but about two hours before the draw.

3.  I had not had anything to drink today. I have a paralyzing fear of having a full bladder because I always have to stop and find a restroom.  So when I’m going someplace new which entails a drive of over about  10 minutes, I am careful to go easy on the liquids so that I don’t have to stop at a shady gas station to use the loo.  I know.  I am a retard.

4. I guess I had underestimated my outright jubilation and glee at our election results (YEAH!  First female Speaker of the House — you go Nancy Fancy Pants!) and so my judgment in matters of importance was greatly clouded.

So, these factors led me to agree to have the blood drawn and lo and behold, about half-way through the 4th vial I started to feel faint.

As in, "Ummmm…. I don’t feel so good." 

Pause. 

"I am starting to not FEEL SO GOOD…" 

Pause.

"Okay, are you almost done because I…ACHCGGGGGHHHCKK ^&&%&%&&%&SHSJAJ…"

And then?

And then I fainted.

FAIN. TED.

I got the full court press with the smelling salts, ice packs, frantic nurses scurrying around and taking my blood pressure and asking me if I knew where I was. Then, once I started coming to, I was seized by the most painful menstrual cramps known to woman. I don’t usually get cramps, so holy Mother of God I was keeled over clutching my lower abdomen, whimpering in pain like an injured rodent, even before I could really feel my hands or feet.

Oh lord, what a GREAT first impression I made!!

It was a nightmare. 

They tried some sugary liquid and then apple juice and that made me almost vomit, I had ice packs smeared all over my forehead (creating an entirely new category of Bad Hair Day!) and heat packs on my stomach and some M&Ms and the blood pressure cuff on my arm and I was barely cogent through most of this.

Finally, after about 45 minutes, I felt strong enough to go downstairs and snarf a bagel as fast as you could say "Where the FRICK is my husband when I need him??!!" and after about another 30 minutes I felt good enough to drive myself home, quickly change into a dressing gown, fling myself upon my brocade chaise lounge in the bed chamber and fan myself, trying to rid myself of the vapors.

Well, really I changed into sweats and a fleece sweatshirt and threw myself on our couch where I could watch TiVo all afternoon, but that other picture sounds much more dignified.

It’s been about five hours since my little drama, and I still feel like crap.

So I do declare, I am K-Fed up with all of this poking and prodding and wanding and blood testing.

BAH!!!!

Stomach Ache?  

Actually, no.  You’re going into labor DILLWEED.

"Amanda Brisendine attributed the 30 pounds she gained in the past year to an abandoned smoking habit and rich food…"

Can you imagine?

I can just hear the chorus of ‘BOO’ now. 

But it’s not the Halloween, scared you type of BOO, it’s the ‘you suck, you didn’t dress up as a pregnant Britney Spears’ kind of BOO.

I know, I know…I suck.  If there was an Internet version of throwing rotten tomatoes I would be ducking right now.

In my defense, our party was canceled and as much as I wanted to dress up like that and take photos just for the hell of it, that did seem a tad desperate.

Even for me.

Speaking of desperate…Bosco was thrilled that his favorite holiday is upon us and wanted you all to preview the costume he will be proudly wearing tomorrow night.

My God.  These people are pathetic.  To make me dress up is one thing.  To make me dress as an effete super hero is another story all together.  Now where is a fricking phone booth I can pee on??

I might as well put this outfit to good use and attempt to utilize my super hero powers…

Screw x-ray vision!  I will use my super powers for good and not evil…I now command you to feed me french toast with maple syrup every night for dinner, and for the love of God stop letting the little neighbor girl slobber all over me!

My sister recently informed me that in addition to the recent doom-and-gloom faxes my Mom has been sending her, she has also been calling her with extra helpings of advice.

My Mom issued the directive that my sister needs to remove all of the ‘toxic’ cleaning supplies from her house.  Years ago, at some crazy conference, my Mom ran across a gentleman who had invented a new soap.  The recipe for this soap came to the inventor in a dream.  And he thought it was a sign from God, to go forth into the world and make this non-toxic, green liquid soap.

My Mom insists on using this soap for EVERYTHING.  Laundry, dishes, furniture, even brushing her teeth!  She loooooves this soap.  So now she’s pressuring my sister to throw out her cleaning supplies and use this green liquid on everything.  And to dispose of the hazardous poison that is Tilex.

So although as many of you so kindly suggested, I am probably still in line to receive the super scary BABY FILE when (thinking positive!) I get pregnant, at least I know what to expect. 

And I know to hide the cleaning products when my Mom is coming over.

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The other night I was suffering the lovely side effects of Metformin.  You know, writhing on the bed, whimpering in pain, wishing I had my own Costco-sized box of Oops I Crapped My Pants:

"What do you say to a game of tennis? Come on Grandma, with you on our side the boys don’t stand a chance!"

"Okay, I’ll get my racket." 

[Grammy starts to get out of her chair, looks askance as if effects of Metformin have just hit her.  She should NOT have had that bran flake pizza with extra cheese and a double vente latte for lunch.  BAD GRAMMY.] 

"On second thought, I better sit this one out."

Anyway, so the other night I am looking askance and whining for BeBop to get my Tums, which are downstairs.

He so helpfully brings the bottle upstairs, and puts it on the dresser, approximately four feet from my writhing, in-severe-gastric-distress self.

"Why the FRICK did you put that over THERE?" I screeched.

"Oh.  I thought you might be taking them into the bathroom," he so helpfully replied.

"I am going to eat them NOT SHOVE THEM UP MY ASS!" I so helpfully replied.

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And finally, answer me this people, is this sick?

I want to go as pregnant Britney Spears for Halloween.

You know, the vision of beauty from her Matt Lauer interview:  complete with crazy bleached blond wig, camisole stretched over huge pregnant belly and ginormous boobs (I will need help with this part, too), short denim mini skirt with flip flops.  Plus chewing gum, mascara running down my cheeks and the omnipresent red Kabbalah string on my wrist.

Is it sick for an infertile to go as a pregnant woman for Halloween? 

It probably is.

Fade in:

Scene:

Woman, approximately 38 years old (looks much younger, thankyouverymuch) in a cafe or relaxed-bar type setting.  Smartly dressed.  Carrying interesting reading material and deciding what drink to order.

Cue voice over.

Countless blood tests, an HSG and three rounds of clomid, followed by one month on Femara and a canceled-at-the-last-minute IUI:

$1,254

After taking a long hiatus, more blood tests, four months of clomid with IUIs:

$1,000

Weekly acupuncture sessions and vile concoctions of home-brewed, gag-inducing Chinese herbs:

$1600

Looking at IVF this winter which is, of course, not covered by insurance:

$20,000+

Having your younger sister call and announce that she’s pregnant:

Priceless.

I am trying to be happy for her.  I am happy for her.  But my GOD, did the universe look around for a way to make going through IVF harder than it already is and stumble upon this?!

I know, it’s terrible and evil to be so narcissistic about this.  My sister getting pregnant is NOT about me.

But still.

I have struggled with this for so long now.  Since we’ve started trying, ten of my close friends have gotten pregnant and had babies.  Some of them have even had TWO kids during this time it’s been so long.

I’ve thrown baby showers.  I’ve attended showers and baby-naming ceremonies and bought gifts and sent meals and cards and congratulations and heartfelt good wishes.

I’ve called friends and sent e-mails.  I’ve stopped by to visit new babies and brought baskets of onesies and bottles and stuffed animals. I’ve babysat so a brand new Mom could pack for a cross-country trip.

Over the years I’ve tried to access what I call the Better Part of Me.  The part that is genuinely happy and thrilled for other’s good fortune.  The part that knows it isn’t about me or my problems.   The part that knows a healthy, happy baby for another person does not impact my chances of having a baby one day.

The BPOM understands that this family-building business is not a zero-sum game, where a gain for someone else is automatically a loss for me.

But still. 

Still…

How do I not turn my sister’s happiness into my unhappiness, which is just the most petty, small-minded way of approaching life?  I don’t want to be that person.

Instead, I want to be happy and hopeful.  My sister had a very early miscarriage last year, so she’s petrified.  I want to be happy she got pregnant again and send her good wishes that this pregnancy works out.  That she has a healthy, easy pregnancy and a happy, healthy baby nine months from now. I want to be happy that my parents will become grandparents and that I’ll be an aunt for the first time.

And I do feel these things.

But I want all of these happy, positive thoughts to erase the sadness and self-pity I also feel, and I guess it just doesn’t work that way sometimes.

Scene:

Smartly-dressed, younger-than-38-looking woman finally placing her order.

"I’ll have something strong with extra alcohol and make that a DOUBLE," she says.

Fade out.

Cut to commercial.

Bosco says:

"Buck up woman! Infertility is NOT for wimps!  Now get me a rawhide bone or I’ll chew your Uggs faster than you can say ‘Ohhhh, Poor Me’!!"

And I DO mean random…

When BeBop arrived home the other night, I had a question for him.  Was it, "what took you so long, sailor?" complete with bedroom eyes and a come-hither stare?  Uhhhh, no.

(We’re trying to get pregnant for God’s sake. It’s less ‘bedroom eyes’ and more ‘I’m wearing my sleep mask so please tell me when it’s over’ and less ‘come-hither stare’ and more ‘squinty-eyed glare’ or ‘frantic eye-rolling like annoyed teenage girl.’)

But back to my story.  Was my question something along the lines of, "Coffee, tea or ME?" and a clingy outfit comprised of saran wrap and a super chic belt?  No.

(Please see above re:  trying to get pregnant.  If I take off my sweat socks he’s lucky.)

Here is what I asked him: "Why does the dog’s ass smell like your face?"  And his response was a completely logical, "because after his bath I put some of my cologne on his butt."  Okay then.

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I got an e-mail from BeBop today at work with the message:  "DUDE, check it."  And the link to this little trinket .  Seriously, people, what the fuck?  Some wives get flowers, or perhaps even a diamond tennis bracelet.  Or a frickin’ gift certificate for a decaf vanilla latte at Starbuck’s, for crissakes.  But THIS?!?  Oy. 

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I finally had my consult this afternoon with Dr. Fertility Specialist.  (And NO, at the moment I can’t come up with a better name.)  And guess what?  He wants me to try Metformin for a few months before we even embark on the IVF path.  Can you fricking believe that?!?  He actually, hold on I’m laughing so hard I can barely type here, he actually thinks I might be able to get pregnant ON MY OWN. Well, with BeBop’s participation of course.

I know!  Stop laughing.

While that might be good news to some, for me it’s another way of saying, bring on the Death March of Forced Sex. I am just now recovering from last month’s debacle.

Seriously folks, I am staring down the cold metal barrel of turning 39 in December. Should I start the Met and just push the envelope, scheduling IVF for sometime that month (the soonest we could do it, given all the blood work this Dr. orders at the beginning of a cycle) or wait a few months and see what the meds do?

As terrified as I am of going through IVF, I have sort of wrapped my head around it the last few weeks and now I’m somewhat anxious to get the show on the road.

The waiting, people — the waiting is going to kill me.

So once again I turn to the beautiful and all-knowing people of the internet.  Should I give the Metformin a couple/few months to work?  If so, what are the side effects I might start looking forward to? (And I know one of you wise women out there just asked this question, feel free to comment with a "I just asked this dumbass!" and direct me to your blog.)

Should I combine the Met with an IUI or two, just to increase our odds?

Or should I take the Met AND move forward with IVF?

I know, I know!  So many fricking questions.  I’m nothing if not annoying and demanding.

So, ummmm…Yeah. 

My Mom told me I wouldn’t eat for a month if I didn’t pose for these crazy photos.  She said her ‘Blog Readers’ (Yeah right!  Like anyone would read the drivel she comes up with. HA.) demanded to see pictures of me in this silly outerwear that I do not — I repeat:  DO NOT — enjoy wearing. 

All of the other dogs at the park make fun of me.  Even the POODLES for chrissake!

Every night we go through the same routine:  Mom comes home, I jump all over her (although secretly wishing it was Dad because to be honest I love him more, but she’s better than that ass-faced Fed Ex guy) and then she greets me with a series of names that are not Bosco, including but not limited to Bossy Boo Boo, Booga Bear, Bear Bear, Stink Butt, Scramy Saurus and a million other humiliating monikers. 

GAWD.  What is with her?

Then, she pets me and throws my favorite toy (the purple football) around the room.  Then, each night she says this:

"I’m going upstairs to change Bossy." 

PAUSE. 

LOOKS AT ME.

"You should say, ‘don’t change Mommy, I love you just the way you are.’"

Yes. You read that correctly.  She talks to me, and then answers her own statement as if she WAS me. 

And you people said she wasn’t a crackpot! 

I was not happy about this little endeavor.

"But it’s for the people," my Mom whined at me.

"Not unlike the Masai warriors of East Africa," I responded, "I believe that taking photos steals a piece of my soul."

She was not buying it.  She arranged the outfits in order and waved a treat in front of my snout to provide me with the right motivation.

"It’s all about the story. You bring a character to the shoot and despite the clothes or make-up, YOU should shine through. You really should be paying attention when I watch America’s Next Top Model," she said.

"Model THIS," I snorted under my breath.

 

I feel like freaking Suri Cruise with all the hoopla surrounding these photos!   

 

 

OH SNAP.  This shot makes me look old. I need a better art director, stat.

Here I’m getting into the spirit of things.  This red coat isn’t too bad, but the quilting does make me look fat.

I’m ready for the next outfit.  Can we please hurry up?  I feel like dragging my butt across the carpet, just for the hell of it.

Now this little number is a Gortex wonder!  It totally keeps the rain off me.  My Dad conned my Mom into paying for it last winter, the cheap bastard!

OK folks.  This is getting old. Here I am with my football and I wish with all my heart I could take this jacket off and just be left alone to bite the plastic toy and drool all over the carpet.  Mmmmmmm….drool.

I cannot believe she put me in THIS monstrosity.  The bitch.  And I don’t mean that in a good way.  My grandparents gave this to me, and believe it or not, it has a battery pack in it that powers an illuminated strip down the sides.  THAT BLINKS. "For those late night walks," they told me.  I feel like throwing myself under a speeding SUV when I have to wear this out in public.

I want to cry.  Or pee on your bed.

DOG!

So the photo shoot with Bosco the Dog is planned for tonight, I swear! 

We went through his clothing selections and chose just the perfect raincoat to demonstrate his modern and ultra chic taste in outerwear.

And he wants me to be sure to tell you he’s NOT gay.  Not that there’s anything wrong with that.  He just wears coats.  When it rains.  And only because I make him.

But!  The prospect of all this attention is clearly getting to him.  He wanted to go by the mall and look at some stuff in Abercrombie & Fitch, just to see if they had any really macho-looking Gortex.  I refused.  I just cannot support a chain that markets thongs to young girls.  Low-rise pants, mid-drift-showing tees and skinny jeans are bad enough, but PLEASE!  Thongs?  For 12 year olds?  I think not.  Bosco started to ask if HE could have a thong but as soon as I started my little tirade about the tweeners he shut his trap.  He knows better.

He’s mad at me because we haven’t done his nails in ages, and he looks positively PREHISTORIC with those long nails.  (In my defense, he can’t just get them clipped like a normal dog.  Noooo…Bosco has to get his mani/pedis at the vet, because his nails get TRAMMELED or some other word I’ve never heard before that means worn down with a loud buzzing machine of some sort.  Basically it’s a total pain in the ass and like the responsible pet owners that we are, we wait until he’s practically prancing around on nothing but nails, skidding across the hardwood floors and leaving hideous scratch marks all over the house, before we finally take him for the trammeling.)

He’s been getting ready all day, fasting because he said he feels ‘bloated’ and doesn’t want to appear fat in the photos. DOGS!  Such freaking divas.

And TAG!

I was recently tagged by the fabu Electric Lady and not-so-recently by the delish ‘Nilla and I will also do my best to get to one or both of those. 

Seriously.  I need some material other than "I’m so infertile…"  "How INFERTILE ARE YOU?" and crazy Mother stories and watch me have a myocardial fucking infarction because my dog isn’t at home when he’s supposed to be.

SNORT.

I said infarction.